29 December 2014

Life on Social Media - The Facebook Discussion.

Instagram recently updated, and with it came a full fled freak out on my behalf.
Did they add a 'No furry felines' rule? Thankfully, no, phew, your cat selfies are safe.
When instagram updated, I was confronted with a worrying list of, 'People I might know.' which were in fact, shocker, a very accurate list of people I have known. An educated guess could presume that the people on my list could also see me on their list. In a state of caffeine-enhanced panic, I quickly set my instagram account to private and put it on hold indefinitely. - since being deleted -

Instagram is a little corner where I post silly pictures of my animals and travels. I saw it as a private place, which very quickly felt like it had become advertised to people I don't really want having an instant access to my life. If I wanted someone in my personal life, then they would be slap bang in the middle of it, trying desperately to escape from my endless, loud, excessive singing. 

The Facebook Discussion. 
Hands up if you've ever done the following:
Go on Facebook, check up on someone you knew six years ago, compare your lifes to theirs, then leave mildly pissed off? It shouldn't be our prerogative to look into other peoples personal lives, especially if they are not someone we talk to. 

It should always be a privilege to know and to be involved in someone's life. 

About three years ago, I deleted my Facebook account. 
I wanted to unhook myself from a place my life felt tethered and showcased for people to see. 
After deleting Facebook, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders; I could now grow, as a person, with my family and friends. It will always feel so amazing to be so blissfully ignorant and free of the world. I get to live on my terms, without the bind of social media.

Time is precious, do not waste it comparing yourself to others; you can live a better, freer life by focusing on the beautiful people around you. You do not need to stay updated on the lives of people you don't see or talk to; give your time and energy to family and friends, because at the end of the day, they are the ones who really matter. 

I'll admit that I am a private person, but I am also an open book. 
I don't keep secrets, I don't lie, I don't have hidden layers; I just try to live life on the surface, because the life I want to live, is an honest one. If someone wants to know me, then I will let them; I will give them a direct door into my life and they can know every single thing there is to know about me, but they have to go through the door that I open for them. 

If I died tomorrow, I would want people to know who I am through means of actually knowing me, not through a Facebook page. 

In related news, I have a NEW instagram account. 
If you wish to find me, I will be at OtherInfinitiesBlog on Instagram 
Feel free to join me for pictures of chubby cats.
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  1. Great post Grace :) I really know how you feel. I used to have so many people on facebook that I barely talked to, I've since deleted them and everyone i went to school with. Social media can be a scary thing, the girls that bullied me at school found my twitter account and started using that to get to me after I blocked them on facebook. They must have googled me or something cos I had no connection of my twitter to anything else! Thankfully none of them have found my instagram yet! But I know that they could very easily find it in just a few clicks through people we know and I can only hope they've forgotten me :/ I hate that facebook just automatically connects to everything, pretty scary. I would love to delete my account but It's been such a fab way of keeping in touch with my family who live in Ireland, so I don't have to totally miss out on them growing up! xo

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  2. I really enjoyed reading this! Social media is so good for keeping in touch with people but I think it's quite easy to forget that not everything on there is private, and a few people seem to be more interested in having loads of friends or followers to worry about who those friends/followers are. I stay in contact with family and friends on Facebook so I haven't deleted my account completely, but I regularly have a cull to get rid of anyone who's not really part of my life and it's so theraputic :) xx

    Toasty

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  3. Great post. Sometimes I really hate social media, I had a period where I disabled my facebook because I just found it controlled my life. It really is unnecessary to know what people are doing if you are never going to see them again! I really should delete it again, I barely use it anyway, definitely think it would be liberating.
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  4. Social media is always some guilty pleasure, and I totally agree that not everything is worth putting onto social media because it's better to experience life out of it! I can't really stand Facebook, I only go on it to greet my relatives (my aunts) who do use Facebook religiously. I think it's VERY important not to get caught up in such things.
    You wrote a great post, thanks for sharing!

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  5. I'm so guilty of wasting time by scrolling through Facebook when I could be doing something else! It is really tempting to disable Facebook sometimes, but I do find it useful for keeping in touch with a select few people so I'm always scared to delete it completely! I think I'm folling you on Instagram but I'll check :-) Happy New Year Grace!

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  6. We are so similar, girl! I deleted my Facebook about 3 or 4 years ago too - BEST DECISION I MADE DURING HIGH SCHOOL. Hands down, it was getting in the way of me focusing on my school work and I would only get on it and feel bad about myself that I wasn't doing anything other people were doing. I never felt truly comfortable using Facebook anyway.

    I prefer places where I can have discussions or be creative (like Twitter or Instagram or Tumblr or even Youtube!). I do love social media though, maybe its the fact that I am a Gemini but I love communicating and social media lets me do that. But yes, time is precious so I try to not have it eat up all my time.

    - Lizz
    Smile a little at my blog here :]

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  7. Last year I deleted facebook for a couple of months and after the first week I didn't miss it at all. However my closest friends arrange our meet-ups on there and it was getting inconvenient because of that so I rejoined. I do post less now though. I've never had instagram and I only got twitter last year for my blog. I think it's great you don't have facebook, I wouldn't either if I could help it lol. x

    Amy at Amy & More

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